10 Things a Parent of an SPD Child Wants to Say to YOU

  • Watch out!  His movements can be very fast and forceful.

Because Vincent is mostly under-responsive to his sense of touch, he rarely cries when he falls or is accidentally run into by an older kid at the park.  He doesn’t feel things as strongly as other children.  As a result, he has no baseline with which to understand his own movements.  The only way he feels his arm traveling through space to throw a ball is if he exerts extra force.  That extra movement reassures his brain that his muscles are doing what they’re supposed to be doing.  This extra movement can come off as fast and forceful. He isn’t doing this to be aggressive or mean.  He simply cannot adjust his momentum because he cannot feel himself moving as you and I can.

Again, please be patient.  He is doing so much better with this, but it is a difficult skill to learn when your nerves rebel against you.

  • He is so incredibly smart!

Just because he’s not comfortable in a mainstream classroom doesn’t mean he’s not able to learn.  It doesn’t mean he’s stupid.  My son is fearsomely intelligent.

His memory is better than mine, his math skills never cease to amaze me, and his appetite for his new passion, spelling, makes my heart swell with pride.  The creativity and problem-solving skills he’s developed while playing adventure games with his Daddy have only proven to me that his capacity for intelligence hasn’t even begun to be appreciated. Standardized testing cannot verify his penchant for architecture.  Circle time cannot concede to his superior grasp of cause and effect.  No Child Study Team will ever capture the wisdom he shows in his thoughtful, gentle care of those he instinctively understands need his affection.

Again, my son is fearsomely, awesomely intelligent.

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